Finally, it is happening. “Waiting for the 20s, you will be attending weddings 15 times a year” and people are proven to be right.
joy! I love love, I think I’m lucky to be invited to anyone’s wedding (after all, they are Not cheap And it’s rarely easy). I like all my friends’ companions, This is rarevery glad they got married.
Nevertheless, even my most feminist, keen socially active companion, I’m still noticing a trend. These women are doing all the work, and the work is never ending.
60% of respondents Conduct wedding polls Brides to want to still have a part of the work, said. Website Entry Bride and groom directly On their big day, teach a troubled fiancé “how to get the reluctant groom involved.”
Red machine Put words on emotions I often hear the voices of angry friends: “I’m lucky he’s helping him, but he does think he’s doing equal work by performing the tasks I assigned.”
I know the gender role will be launched-I just didn’t expect it to be so early
Couples who call themselves “liberal” often belong to Old-fashioned gender roles About parenting. Some of them depend on the inevitable reality of pregnancy and birth, but thanks to Twist inequality.
although More and more of us Assuming we think men and women should contribute the same to the family, 63% of women self-reported to do most of their work at home, compared with 22% for men.
I hope these bumps will appear over time. I’m ready to have my straight girlfriend call me to learn about unfair feeding schedules and frustrating Double standard – Several years.
However, I was shocked to see that once the proposal was over, the demand for women (not just the bride) would appear.
Many times, brides to want to enter event planning mode as soon as possible. Venues, dresses, food, guests, music, venues, cakes, flowers, clothes (her and his best man) and decorations are often seen as “women’s job”; it can be fine if you like, but if you don’t, then besides exhausted.
Meanwhile, I have seen the best man’s girlfriend organize a boy’s Bucks Program Meeting, the best man’s wife shows speech, while the family and friends’ mother plan, dress and organize the entire family arrives at the wedding in time.
I know not everyone has the same “ideal” wedding, and some men do go beyond it. In the past, I have seen some really pleasant behaviors from my friend’s fiancé.
But if I don’t say I’m shocked by the injustice of some good friends, I’ll lie, who also expect and explicitly mention that people who want to have more help on big days find the process.
I no longer believe in “bridezilla” each other. I’ve seen too much fatigue, and the burned friend just snapped up under the burden of sometimes huge planning.
There is a road
Wed Magazine wrote That said, “It can be said that traditionally the groom has occupied a high seat in wedding planning.”
One way to go out is to get the groom to actively participate in the program, they added. “From the day on the discussion about what you both want and how to take advantage of their respective strengths and weaknesses.”
The most equal wedding plan I’ve ever seen looks like great home management. Think carefully about the task at hand, thoroughly respect your partner’s time, and never slide into the “auto gear” when assuming what your partner “should” do.
It looks different for everyone, and some of my friends really tend to be at the helm – who am I going to judge?
But the same Emotional and Cognitive Labor and housework I have to admit that it still falls heavily on women and I realize it will also affect their weddings and I get very angry.
